Review of the best books on child psychology in 2020

Probably, every parent wants his child to grow up happy, loved, talented, developed and able to independently make the right decisions. And in the future, so that everything will work out only in the best possible way, starting with good health and a loving family, and ending with the organization of his own business, which brings a stable income. Of course, moms and dads face a number of questions that arise from day to day.

Am I a good parent and am I raising my children the right way? How to build communication on trust? How to avoid mistakes in parenting? How to behave in domestic conflicts and can you do without them? How to build communication with children of crisis ages (5-7 and 13-15 years old)? Should penalties be applied? How not to spoil your child? Answers to these and many other difficult questions can be found in various books on child psychology (textbooks, techniques, books), which have been compiled and written by experts and professionals in their field (psychologists, educators, doctors and simply authors with extensive parenting experience).

Review of the best top books on child psychology

In our material you will find a selection of popular books by foreign and domestic writers that will give answers to many questions regarding education, parent-child friendship and further understanding between parents and children in life. After all, the future success of your child directly depends on the foundations laid in childhood through joint games, classes with parents and loved ones, on a wide range of orientation of upbringing, which helps to take the right role in the child's life. The entire line of literature we have selected for reading contains recommendations with practical advice that will be useful not only for parents, but also for psychologists, teachers, teachers and students of pedagogical universities. After reviewing which, you can find out the following information:

• where to start raising a child;
• about age-related crises, problems of their solution;
• about new exciting methods of raising children used abroad;
• which authors' bestsellers, according to readers, rightfully occupy the rating of quality publications in this area.

After all, books analyzing the psychological behavior of children are a kind of instructions for understanding their psyche, and in the future, an ingenious way of teaching, developing and becoming a child's personality.

The Three Pillars of Montessori Success: Love, Support, Let Go, by Heidi Mayer-Hauser

Rosman Publishing

Year of publication: 2016

Circulation 5000

Cost: from 250 rubles.

Abstract: The book describes the method of education, interaction between parents and children according to the Montessori system, which for over 100 years continues to prove its effectiveness and relevance. The technique is based on the principle - love, support, but let go. The child is given freedom within certain boundaries, in which he learns to independently make decisions in various situations. Thanks to this, the formation of a strong, harmonious, balanced and viable personality occurs. And the refusal of the ubiquitous parents from unnecessary interference and restrictions will help strengthen intra-family relationships.

The book is aimed at children under 7 and their parents who like to keep everything under control. After reading it, your perception of the upbringing system will completely change. After all, acquiring new knowledge allows you not to stagnate, but to find new ways to solve problems, correct mistakes that have already been made and prevent new ones in the future. The publication is filled with examples and life situations of various families, ways of resolving conflict situations (for example, the child does not want to eat, does not dress, does not obey). The author considers the correct and incorrect option for completing the emerging problems, the consequences to which they can lead. She shares her experience of communicating with parents who attended her courses and seminars, everyday observations of the situation in the Montessori kindergarten she organized, as well as ways of their positive achievement.

• accessible and understandable language of presentation;
• there are many tips, examples of solutions to urgent problems from the life of the author and other families;
• given many answers to countless questions from parents.

• not found.

Conclusion: a useful book.

"Raising children without screaming, threats and punishment", author Alexander Musikhin

Russian publishing house AST

Year of publication: 2017

Circulation 2000

Average price: from 300 rubles.

Description: The book is based on the works of Petranovskaya L.V., Murashova S., Gippenreiter Yu. The publication looks more like an interesting methodological manual, where boring theory is minimized, and exciting practice takes a large place. The volume is read quickly, in one breath. The book helps to find an approach to any child. Allows you to comprehend and look at your attitude to the child from a different angle. You will learn to understand the child's experiences, his emotional state. And the daily application of five simple rules will help to find mutual understanding between generations, reduce conflict situations and disputes.

5 main steps:

• ask;
• listen to and satisfy the need;
• promise a reward instead of threats and punishments;
• order;
• schedule a timeout.

Thanks to the step-by-step method of five actions, trust and harmony will gradually appear in your family. The child will learn to build partnerships with parents, stop being capricious, and throw tantrums. The number of quarrels will be minimized, thereby further contributing to the correct upbringing and development of an adequate personality.

• the book has collected a large number of positive reviews and reviews;
• the text is presented briefly and clearly, without unnecessary information;
• current step-by-step instructions that do not require a huge time investment;
• many situations in life.

• not found.

Bottom line: a must-read book.

All About Children, by Helen Andelin

Publishing house "E"

Year of publication: 2018

How much: from 700 rubles.

Summary: Who, if not the mothers themselves, know best and most of all about the psychology of children, upbringing and family relationships. This hit was written by the author, who is the mother of eight children and thirty-three grandchildren.She shares her experience in building an ideal harmonious family in which happiness, love, respect and mutual understanding of loved ones reign. The book consists of several parts, after reading which you will learn about the true meaning of the value of the family, find answers to the most important and troubling questions, gain knowledge about building relationships with your husband and children. It turns out that in order to raise and educate children adapted to society, who in the future will become pride and support for their loved ones, it is enough to adhere to simple everyday wisdom passed down by generations.

Using biblical excerpts and relying on a Christian high moral outlook, the author convinces us of the main tenet of family happiness: family unity, where everyone should take care, respect and love children, thereby helping to foster independence in a small person. And for adults, in order to learn to understand the role of parents, the writer suggests using objective advice based on her life experience.

• contains wise advice from mom, grandmother and wife, based on real knowledge;
• for fans of this genre, the author has a series of other popular books on family psychology and education;
• quick and easy to read.

• few examples;
• a lot of life philosophy.

Conclusion: This training book is worthy of attention.

"5 methods of raising children" by Mikhail Litvak

AST Publishing House

Year of publication: 2015

Estimated cost: from 280 rubles.

Description: The main concept of the author lies in the confidence that through education a person receives everything that is necessary for the formation of an adequate personality, and, accordingly, in the future for the better development of the country as a whole. The writer shares information on how to educate, first of all, yourself and those around you (teachers and educators, grandparents), the principles and unique methods of raising children who are still in the womb, babies, preschool babies and adolescents. The author believes that children are future adults, and accordingly the attitude and stated requirements for them should be like adults. The practical application of this technique contributes to the emergence of trusting relationships between different generations, and also helps to grow a self-confident person.

• the work was written by the author of a number of bestsellers in psychotherapy;
• a non-standard view of the education system is applied.

• confusion in writing style;
• without reading other books of the author, it's hard to grasp the essence;
• resembles a collection of lecture material.

Conclusion: A budget bestseller available to the average person.

The Happiest Kid in the Playground by Harvey Karp

Alpina non-fiction publishing house

Year of publication: 2016

Estimated cost: from 400 rubles.

Content: According to the author, it is very easy to build a relationship based on mutual respect and care, you just need to be patient and gradually develop the child's knowledge, skills and abilities in a way that is understandable to the baby. The application of the technique described in this publication will help you avoid whims and tantrums, minimize stubbornness and disobedience, foster goodwill, and develop confidence in your child.

The book consists of four parts, illustrated with multiple colorful photographs, pictures that contribute to an interesting reading by adults and viewing by young children. From the first part you will learn about the basics of relationships, their correct alignment between the baby and the parent. The second part will acquaint you with the basics of the correct construction of respectful communication between an adult and a child, methods, forms of expression. Thanks to the third part, you will learn about the types of behavior, ways to stimulate, restrain or suppress it.The fourth part of this publication will teach you the practice of positive solutions to everyday problems (from whims, disobedience and ending with whims, tantrums of a child). What should you pay attention to in the behavior of the baby, and what is better to ignore.

• excellent effective, useful manual;
• Lots of topical tips leading to instant results;
• inexpensive publication with useful information for a large audience of readers.

• American writing style;
• has limited relevance (it will be useful for parents-to-be and parents of children from 0 to 4 years old).

Bottom line: The best parenting guide for toddlers from 0 to 4 years old.

"An independent child, or how to become a" lazy mother ", by Anna Bykova

Eksmo Publishing House

Year of publication: 2016

Circulation 7000

Estimated cost: from 375 rubles.

Description: This thinking story first appeared on the Internet, and in a short time has spread around many forums and various social communities. Later it was published in a book version in a more detailed form. The author of the book easily and easily explains that the main mission of the parents is to teach the child independence. Her advice, written in a light ironic form, illustrated by life examples, is available for understanding and comprehension. They do not indicate how to correctly lead or do, they make you think, lead to certain correct thoughts that are so necessary for solving the problem of infantile upbringing.

They help to realize and prevent mistakes in upbringing, get rid of excessive overprotection, anxiety for the child. Indeed, for the development of independence in a child (making a decision, the ability to do everything by himself), special conditions are necessary, which parents must learn to create (in the author's opinion, “sometimes be lazy”). Indeed, in the future, this will invariably lead to a smooth release of the child into the free floating of adult life.

• easy writing style;
• not bulky in content;
• available for understanding.

• many opinions differing from the author, which creates a large volume of criticism and controversial disputes.

Bottom line: The presented material is easy to read, master and further use.

"The Most Important Book for Parents" by Julia Gippenreiter

AST Publishing House

Year of publication: 2014

Circulation 5000

Estimated cost: from 850 rubles.

Contents: This is a collection of three books with many colorful illustrations. The first book on the psychology of children contains the basic postulates that parents need to know for proper communication, understanding, and education of their baby. The author believes that first it is necessary to copy the child's emotions, then, through leading questions, let the child tell everything, and in the future not to interfere with the adoption of an independent correct decision. The second book expands and deepens the cognitive range of the first. She is replete with life stories, examples from everyday life.

The topics of punishment, order, etc. are described in great detail. Here you will find a good rationale for why the classic educational norms are outdated, have lost their relevance and effectiveness. The third part will be of interest to teachers and practicing psychologists, as it is devoted to the analysis of autobiographies of famous people, their memories of how they were children, parents. Each of the touching life situations contains an author's commentary on parenting according to established norms.

• book three in one;
• suitable for reading by a wide range of people (from parents to teachers and psychologists);
• written in an easy-to-read language;
• many examples.

• the third book has lost its relevance due to the timing of the events described in it;
• high price.

Conclusion: The book is the backbone of the basics. A great copy that every family library should have. Desk literature for every mother.

Let's sum up

We have tried to collect the most anticipated and recommended by readers of the books of the best authors involved in the study of child psychology. It remains only to decide which book is best suited for raising your children. And then make a choice, and using the studied techniques, create ideal relationships in the family.