Ranking the best books in 2020 to love yourself and raise your self-esteem

Why does one succeed in everything, while for others every undertaking perishes? Why doesn't appearance guarantee success in your personal life and good social relationships? What makes you suffer, look back at someone else's opinion, be afraid to stumble? Science is as old as the world. For some it comes easily, even from birth, while others have to fight for it in mortal combat. There is an opinion that it is a matter of personal self-esteem and dislike in oneself. Popular books in this section are reliable teachers and assistants who will teach you to love yourself and find your own significance.

How to choose a book

There are several criteria for making the right choice.

What you should pay attention to:

• Subject

Distinguish between women and men, classical psychology, parenting manual and popular step-by-step guides.

• Author

Some books are reprinted many times and reach large numbers of total circulation. The author's popularity is based on the number of people who have coped with their complexes and fears thanks to the publication.

• Cost and format

Having stopped your choice on a particular book, you need to decide on the conditions in which it will be mastered. It is clear that an expensive and voluminous publication is not suitable for reading in transport. For some techniques, careful study is required, with entries in diaries and introspection - such a book, study guide can be with many photographs, voluminous and have several parts. Soft cover and a moderate number of pages of the book will allow her to travel with the reader to work, to the country and on business trips.

• Overview

In the case of an extensive choice on the topic you are looking for, you can use the informational overview of publications, navigate through the opinions of readers or familiarize yourself with the content in the announcements.

Selection errors

The choice of a reliable guide for solving the problem should be based not on the position of "how much it costs", but on the basis of feedback and opinions of experts. For an ordinary person, not immersed in the problems of psychology, an interesting book with practical advice reveals the meaning of self-control. Sometimes, inexpensive books give invaluable experience, thanks to which a person becomes happy.

Rating of the best books to love yourself and raise self-esteem

This line of publications is recommended for those who want to learn to love themselves. The presented books are for those who wish to be happy, but do not know where to start.

L. Hay “Become Happy in 21 Days. The most complete course of self-love "

The book by the author Louise Hay was published in 2016 from the EKSMO publishing house.

The writer has more than 30 published books, her bestsellers are published in 33 countries and translated into 30 languages ​​of the world. Published in 1984, You Can Heal Your Life has been reprinted 110 times with a total print run exceeding 50 million.

The main concept of the work is the ability to overcome one's own negative attitudes, including those built in childhood. Through a change in self-awareness, the acquisition of new thinking, a positive attitude to life, not only does the understanding of oneself change, but the body is healed.

Louise Hay is leading a self-help march around the world. The author of the book encourages readers to take the first step into the field of happy changes in their lives:

• just smile at your reflection in the mirror;
• just turn to your inner self and creativity;
• just love yourself and the world around you;
• just feel harmony and dispel fears of change;
• just let go of all grievances and get rid of complexes.

“After all, life is very simple,” says the psychologist. If a woman is tired of problems, her negative moods, constant stress and troubles so much that she is ready for change, the book “for those who have big plans” is a lifeline. Rescuing drowning people is the work of the drowning people themselves, and Louise Hay extends a helping hand.

• the author's publications have helped millions of women to change themselves;
• the help of a practicing psychologist;
• book - support and guidance for self-love;
• book - a plan to change your life in 21 days;
• unique system for working with mirrors.

• absent.

P. Frank “How to become self-confident. Training book "

The book by Pierre Franck from the series “Your Own Coach” was published by the EKSMO publishing house in 2016.

The author gives the reader “all the cards in hand” to change the internal self-esteem, erase negative attitudes to increase self-esteem. Just 6 minutes a day of deep work with your “I” is enough to become a confident, self-sufficient and successful person.

• the book provides an opportunity to return harmony in oneself and with the outside world through inner change;
• awareness of one's own uniqueness is the key to success;
• best-seller.

• age limit.

L. Parfentieva "100 ways to change your life"

The book by the author Larisa Parfentieva from the Personal Development series was printed in 2016 by Mann Ivanov and Ferber. The writer has created the Selfawest project and has curated the glossy stars for many years.

Readers are waiting for the rules of self-realization:

1. what "stops" are holding back the success of life;
2. how to break the vicious circle;
3. everyone has talent, how to reveal it;
4. seven components of happiness;
5. how to part with an unloved job.

The book will open the system of personal motivation, tell you about the laws of life, help you find your purpose, reveal the formula for happiness to change your life.

• you can start reading from any section;
• it is enough to devote an hour of time for the appearance of positive results;
• a universal guide to eliminating fears and realizing yourself.

• not.

M Advertising “Love yourself first! Improve Your Self-Esteem In 30 Days "

Mark Reklau's book is printed in 2020 by the All edition. Mark, a popular psychologist, reveals the secret to boosting self-esteem. The book contains 5 parts, in which the analysis of attitudes and perception of oneself, correction of assessments and a list of mistakes in this kind of practice is given step by step.

• an algorithm for comprehending the main principle of low self-esteem - your own negative attitude towards yourself and the erroneous conclusion that people see also;
• 30 days of an exciting course on changing yourself with victories and new beliefs;
• acquiring the ability to calmly react to criticism;
• the key to success is working with the settings you least want to practice.

• absent.

B. Litvak "7 steps to stable self-esteem"

The book from the series "Litvak's Principles", businessman, business coach and director of the cross club B. Litvak, was published in 2018 from the Russian publishing house "AST". The coach offers readers 7 steps: from universal mechanisms, through a plan for working on oneself, to systemic changes, monitoring and reaching a new level of development.

• recommendations for avoiding unstable self-esteem;
• clear algorithms of workshops with the analysis of emotional, motivational, cognitive and volitional spheres of influence;
• setting achievement bars and working out to the result;
• analysis of the level of communication and correction.

• does not apply to "easy reading" books.

P Fedorenko I. Kachai “Life without complexes, fears and anxiety. How to gain self-confidence and raise self-esteem "

The book by Pavel Fedorenko and Ilya Kachai was published in 2018 from the publishing house "AST".

How to free your life from anxiety, fears and complexes? The authors position their publication as a book - salvation from alarming misfortunes. The writers are renowned experts in the field of panic attacks, phobias and internal IRR.

• a step-by-step guide to freeing yourself from inner "stops" and indecision;
• a course of overcoming social stiffness - social phobia;
• best-seller.

• not.

T. Chamorro-Premuzik "Self-confidence: How to increase self-esteem, overcome fears and doubts"

The book by Thomas Chamorro-Premuzik was published by Alpina Publisher in 2017.

The author casts doubt on the assertion that a confident person is many times more successful than one who doubts and looks around with apprehension at others. There is a difference between high self-esteem and inner self-confidence, just as competence differs from success.

Readers are waiting for answers to questions:

1. is it possible to count on high achievements in life only by eliminating low self-esteem;
2. what is the danger of narcissism;
3. why is the trend of recognition through social networks dangerous;
4. what is the connection between the pursuit of the number of friends in social. networks and inner happiness;
5. what it is - virtual self-confidence.

The author talks about the use of low self-confidence and social activity.

• the truth about the dangers of pursuing self-confidence;
• guidance on overcoming difficulties in achieving the goals of self-improvement;
• secrets of competence;
• best-seller.

• the book contains many examples from American life.

I. Udilova, A. Ustupalov “Self-assessment like a woman. Become a self-confident woman "

The book by Irina Udilova and Anton Ustupalov from the series “like a woman” was published by Ves publishing house in 2016.

The authors reveal the secrets of the charisma and success of self-confident women. Not distinguished by unearthly beauty, they know how to be in the center of attention, luck accompanies everything, personal life develops safely. The co-authors are practicing psychologists, in the process of their work, they managed to derive 20 principles of gaining self-confidence.

• the book will teach the reader how to unleash creativity;
• a science course to please yourself, communicate with pleasure and enjoy life by implementing your own projects;
• an opportunity for a woman to become attractive, spectacular, charming.

• recommended for female reading.

I. Kishimi and F. Koga “The courage to not like it. How to love yourself, find your calling and choose happiness "

The book by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga, translated by K. Savelyeva from the series "psychological bestseller", was released in 2020 by the Russian publishing house "Eksmo".

The publication is recognized as a Japanese phenomenon and has 4,000,000 copies sold. Recognized psychologist and philosopher Ichiro Kishimi, in collaboration with the writer Fumitagi Koga, created a unique work that combines the philosophy of Alfred Adler and Eastern wisdom.

The reader is encouraged to learn:

1. reject emotional trauma;
2. understand that all problems are in interpersonal relationships;
3. abandon other people's tasks;
4. to admit that the center of the universe is not within;
5. to appreciate life here and now, to live every moment;
6. give meaning to life that seems meaningless.

The freedom to dislike other people does not come instantly. You will have to work out a lot of aspects - family, team, friends, partners, children, before the ability to not depend on someone else's opinion appears.

• the book gives the ability to feel their own value;
• a course for finding true application and purpose of oneself;
• the answer to the question - what is the difference between faith and confidence;
• the discovery of the secret of the greatest lie in life.

• not.

E. Muir “Self-confidence. A book for working on yourself "

The book by Alice Muir, a certified psychologist, personal growth coach and educator, business owner, was published in 2015 by Mann, Ivanov & Ferber.

Stress at work, getting out of your comfort zone, relationships with people - how not to lose yourself and emerge victorious? The key is self-confidence. To test yourself, the book contains tests, and for practice - exercises.

• fascinating system of control over the situation;
• a way of gaining freedom of expressing one's own opinion, regardless of the state;
• effective management of the reaction to criticism addressed to you;
• science - how self-confidence relieves stress.

• primarily targeted at business readers.

N. Narain and K. Narain Phillips “Love yourself. Secrets of caring for the soul and body "

The book by yoga guru Katya Narain and her sister, a recognized specialist in wholesome food, Nadia Narain Phillips, from the Magic of Space series was published in 2018 from the Russian publishing house Eksmo.

Readers are waiting for the brilliant idea of ​​self-love through daily, patient care. An interesting book with illustrations gives a step-by-step recommendation for bringing happiness, calm confidence, and wisdom into your life. The Sanday Times newspaper recommended the publication as practical and lightweight, but at the same time for the Soul.

• the book inspires action;
• sensible methods of gaining confidence by treating yourself with great love;
• revealing the secrets of caring for the soul and body;
• principles of a healthy lifestyle.

• not.

B. Brown “Gifts of Imperfection. How to love yourself the way you are "

Brené Brown's book from a series of popular psychology, translated by Anastasia Ivanyakova, was published in 2020 by the publishing house Alpina Non-Fiction.

According to the readers, the book is like a conversation with a good friend who is able to deeply sympathize, help with advice, and give strength. The author denounces the inner shame for shortcomings as an epidemic of modern society.

• removing barriers to trust, courage and empathy;
• 10 steps of self-improvement;
• self-compassion, like giving up perfectionism;
• realization of creative potential;
• elimination of the usual background - anxiety;
• release from doubts and illusory obligations.

• not found.

V. Sinelnikov and S. Slobodchikov “Practical course of Dr. Sinelnikov. How to learn to love yourself "

The book by Valery Sinelnikov in collaboration with Sergei Slobodchikov from the series "Secrets of the Subconscious" was published in 2018 from the publishing house "Tsentrpoligraf". The author of the publication has created unique psychological techniques with the help of which millions of people were able to restore health, feel joy, and change their lives for the better. Sergey Slobodchikov helps to comprehend the method of self-love, being a follower of Sinelnikov's teachings.

• best-seller;
• specific help for diseases;
• millions of fans and followers.

• absent.

S. Yudina "How to love yourself?"

Svetlana Yudina's book was published in 2018 by Silk Road Media publishing house.

The author talks about her life since childhood, about the problems she had to face and unique methods of changing her fate. Complex interpretations and conclusions are presented in an accessible, simple language.

• practical application of recommendations - as the purpose of reading;
• confirmation of the effectiveness of the method - the author's personal life;
• intended for a wide range of readers.

• absent.

E. Barry “Shame Relief: Practice. How Working with the Shadow helped me find my voice, my path and the gold of my soul "

Alice Barry's book from the series "My Psychological Culture" was published in 2014 from the publishing house "Literary Study". The author tells how from childhood she was very shy, shy, bashful, but working with the Shadow allowed her to break out of the vicious circle, become successful, open,

Transforming your own life is not easy. It is especially difficult to change yourself: learn to love, give up negatives and find courage in actions, increase self-esteem.

• the secret of turning flaws into victory;
• a method for detecting and correcting the causes of recurring errors;
• getting rid of the anchor of decision making;
• depth psychology in an accessible presentation;
• inspiration for change through self-improvement.

• not.

G. Moore "Love yourself, the rest will catch up"

The book by Gloria Moore from the series "The Enchantress" was published in 2013 from the publishing house "Ves".

The author calls for the release of the true "I", any situation should be perceived through the prism of self-love. Complicated life problems are analyzed using specific examples.

• life-affirming humor in the self-improvement system;
• method of activating creativity.

• not.

E. Tsurkhorst "Love yourself - it doesn't matter who you are with"

The book by Eva-Maria Zurhorst from the series "Psychology and Philosophy" was published in 2020 from the publishing house "Alpina Publisher".

If the ship of family life was wrecked, but has not yet gone to the bottom, is it worth burning all the bridges. How to figure it out - the outcome of pressing family problems is important for partners, or the desire to meet the expectations of loved ones prevails.The author's system is based on her personal experience. Several thousand people received psychological help and became happy.

• the key to success lies in the ability to love yourself;
• a break in partnerships is not a reason to start looking, but an alarming signal for correcting self-esteem.

• not found.

Name	Publisher	Binding	Pages, number	Circulation
Become happy in 21 days. The most complete self-love course	Eksmo	soft	160	4000
How to become self-confident. Training book	Eksmo	soft	224
100 ways to change your life	Mann Ivanov and Ferber	solid	256
Love yourself first! Boost your self-esteem in 30 days	The whole	solid	176
7 Steps to Stable Self-Esteem	AST	solid	352	2000
Life without complexes, fears and anxiety. How to build self-confidence and self-esteem	AST	solid	320	5000
Book Self-Confidence: How to Increase Self-Esteem, Overcome Fears and Doubts (Thomas Chamorro-Premuzic)	Alpina Publisher	solid	272	3000
Self-esteem as a woman. Become a confident woman	The whole	solid	176	1500
The courage to not like it. How to love yourself, find your calling and choose happiness	Eksmo	soft	304	4000
Self-confidence. A book to work on yourself	Mann Ivanov and Ferber	solid	208	2000
Love yourself. Secrets of caring for body and soul	Eksmo	solid	272
Gifts of imperfection. How to love yourself for who you are	Alpina non-fiction	solid	208	2000
Practical course of Dr. Sinelnikov. How to learn to love yourself	Tsetrpolygraph	soft	240
S. Yudina "HOW TO LOVE YOURSELF"	Silk Road Media	soft	102
Love yourself, the rest will catch up	The whole	soft	208
Love yourself - it doesn't matter who you are with	Alpina Publisher	soft	268
Getting rid of shame: practice. How Shadow Work helped me find my voice, my path and my gold	Literary studies	soft	208	3000

It is hard to believe that past grievances, complexes from childhood and the established opinion of others can lead to complete despair. Each new day is an opportunity to turn destiny into a new direction. The road will be mastered by the walking one. You just need to take the first step.

Forward! Towards happy changes!